How to earn enough money to live decently

Money has never made people happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more of it one has the more one wants, Benjamin Franklin.

He is not richer who the most has, but who the least needs, Spanish saying.

We have already mentioned this point, but the question remains, how can you make enough money to live decently and be happy

The richest man is not he who has the most but he who needs the least.

The fox seemed perplexed and very curious. “On another planet?” “Yes.”
“Are there hunters on that planet?” “No.”
“Ah, that is interesting! Are there chickens?” “No.”
“Nothing is perfect,” sighed the fox. The little prince, Saint Auxpery.

Some say that this argument is a big fat lie, like religion, according to Karl Marx. He pointed out how religion makes a virtue out of the suffering of the oppressed but does absolutely nothing to challenge the status quo.

Groucho Marx, in this line, will say ironically: “My son, happiness is made out of small things: A small yacht, a small mansion, a small fortune,” and also, “there are things far more important than money, but they cost so much!” Arab tradition states that a dog with money is addressed as “Mr. Dog”, and Quevedo wrote: “Don Money is a powerful gentleman.”

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However, Arthur Schopenhauer asserted that “Wealth is like sea-water; the more we drink, the thirstier we become.” Indeed, the greedy heart is never happy and satisfied because it always wants more and more.

Moreover, money can not buy the most important things in life. You can get access to some of the highest quality healthcare available, but no-one can buy health. You can pay for sex with the most voluptuous women, and feel momentarily satisfied, but you can’t buy love. You may be able to afford the best beds in the most luxurious hotels and mansions, but you can’t buy sleep. You can travel all around the world, enjoy the most exclusive clubs and theatres, but you can’t buy laughter and happiness. You can purchase male or female companionship, but not a sincere friendship.

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True happiness cannot be purchased. It is within us. It is basically enjoying every moment, what we do and having fun living our lives. It is about appreciating the little things in life, it is about loving your friends and family, and feeling accepted, appreciated, and loved.

Companies spend big money on advertising their products. They tell us that happiness is all about having many things, for example, a large sports car or a big house. However, after you buy your dream house, you will soon discover how much money and time it requires: condominium fees, property taxes, monthly mortgage payments, property insurance, security, electricity, gas, and water bills, etc. You will have to earn more money, work long hours, perhaps in a job you may even hate. Moreover, cleaning and maintaining a big house takes up way too much time – cleaning a big house is a lot of work! Kids and pets don’t make things easier either.

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It also happens when we renovate our houses. The fridge breaks down and fixing it is more expensive than buying a new one. So, we go to the supermarket and there it is, a state-of-the-art fridge with a cooling system to make sure humidity levels in the fresh food compartments are low, a tall bottle door rack, separate ice-maker chamber, a touch-screen that will show your Google Mail, Google Calendar, news updates and your Twitter feed, etc. Ah, yes! There is a little problem, the refrigerator is a special sized one.

Not a big deal. We will renovate our kitchen a little. It really needs an upgrade anyway. So we move ahead, and then we realize that some of our furniture and appliances will need to be replaced, too so we can fit the big fridge in. However, later on, when we remove the worktop, it appears to be old and worn. Therefore, it makes a lot of sense, to update the whole kitchen by installing a new worktop. “Maybe we could change the floor tiles so that they are consistent with the rest of the kitchen design and there are a couple of tiles broken, too.” “I suggest you to replace the cast iron soil pipes with new plastic ones before they start to crack and leak,” a contractor may tell you. “And get sure to install the air conditioning before painting…” So, little by little, like falling dominoes, we end up having a big house restoration work, far more expensive than we anticipated.

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Another example is weddings. Some couples are so worried about so many things (designing and setting up their dream house, the wedding travel arrangements, invitations, wedding dress, floral decoration, protocol, rings and arras, photographer) that they can’t enjoy such a beautiful and significant moment in their lives. It can also be seen on some trips where some people instead of having some days of rest and enjoying quality time with their loved ones, they are obsessed with recording life instead of living it and staying connected every minute of the day.

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All great religions have expressed this same idea, albeit in different ways.

Success is not in what you have, but who you are!

Success is not in what you have, but who you are!, Bo Bennett.

God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables ― slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need, Fight Club.

Do not be fooled, happiness is not about buying a bigger house, faster car, nicer clothes, the latest gadgets or sculpting a more perfect body (plastic surgery). It is not in buying and having more.

This is “a consumerist race to nowhere, a hurricane of stupidity in the name of a convenience that is not convenient anymore,” Isaac Hepworth.
This consumerist race leads to:

Do not worry about anything!

If a problem has a solution, there is no need to worry about it. But if the problem has no solution, what’s the point of worrying about it?

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Discern between what you can change and what you cannot. It may seem terribly simple, but it is very important and powerful. What sense does it have to mourn and complain bitterly about something which cannot be changed, such as, the death of a loved one, a chronic and painful sickness,  a bitter divorce which left you financially broken, etc.? You are just wasting your time, draining your energy and hurting yourself!

If you cannot go wherever you want, stay where you are.

What cannot be, cannot be and, besides … it is impossible,Charles Maurice Talleyrand.

All our efforts should focus on changing what is within our reach, starting with ourselves: do not worry about your problems, and do something useful! Follow your dreams and exercise courage, set specific goals and tasks based on your dreams, have a plan and commit to it, review how you are performing and how you can improve.

If you can not do anything about it: let it go, ignore it, don’t think more about it. Enjoy life, because no one gets out alive anyway. Do more exercise and outdoor activities so that you can reap the health benefits that more physical activity can bring. Develop new and meaningful relationships that enrich your personal and professional life, find meaning and purpose in your life, etc.

If you are stressed out, simplify!

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak, Hans Hofmann.

Are you stressed out because you have so much work, you are afraid to say “no”, you’re overcommitted at work, your boss expects the impossible, you have too many things on your plate, etc? These are the key steps:

Everything has its time and place!

Virtue is the habit of choosing the mean or intermediate state between the two extremes of excess and deficiency, Aristotle.

Ponder all things in life, everything has a place in the universe.
You must study and work hard, there is no doubt about it. If you are lazy today, you will regret opportunities you let slip away through sheer idleness and indifference. It is the story of the grasshopper and the ant that we all have been told and is embedded in our collective consciousness:

“What!” cried the ants in surprise, “haven’t you stored anything away for the winter? What in the world were you doing for the whole of last summer?” “I didn’t have time to store any food,” complained the grasshopper. “I was so busy playing music that before I knew it the summer was gone.”

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However, if you are always overwhelmed and crazy busy because of your studies or work, you will waste your youth without enjoying life, your health will deteriorate, and your friends will forget you and move on as “Forever is Over” put it:

You need to breathe in the vibes, savour the moments, for soon your friends will scatter and you will be left with a fat wife, spoilt kids, and an enormous mortgage!

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Or even the Bible: “The ground of a certain rich man yielded plentifully. And he thought within himself, saying, ‘What shall I do, since I have no room to store my crops?’ So he said, ‘I will do this: I will pull down my barns and build greater, and there I will store all my crops and my goods. And I will say to my soul, “Soul, you have many goods laid up for many years; take your ease; eat, drink, and be merry.” But God said to him, “Fool! This night your soul will be required of you; then whose will those things be which you have provided?,” Lk. 12, 13-40.

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Death is the last taboo, and yet, it is a key element that we should always keep in our minds. Enjoy the little things in life, disobey some rules, be playful, act boldly, challenge yourself to grow, love what you do, and love all those around you. You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough! (Joe Lewis).

I went into the woods because I wished to live deliberately. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life… to put to rout all that was not life; and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived,Dead Poets Society.

You should not live like a headless chicken wasting your time and money doing nothing useful, without reflecting on your life, your purpose and goals, and how to reach them. Neither is it healthy to be a “super” introverted person who is always self-examining and finding dark areas in his/her personality. As with everything in life, virtue is the balance between both extremes.

Boost your self-esteem II

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other, Abraham Lincoln.

Good self-esteem requires:

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Self esteem is the ability to see oneself as capable and competent, loving, unique and valuable, Berne and Savary.

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right, Henry Ford.

Do not limit your potential, instead choose to challenge your limits, raise above your circumstances, and achieve your goals! If you are really unhappy about your job/career, try to find a better one. If you don’t have the right qualifications or experience, what are you waiting for?

Study and get your Bachelor’s degree, Master’s degree, Ph.D., or diploma. Learn a new skill, language, instrument, craft or whatever tickles your fancy. Develop and enhance your existing skill set. Prepare yourself for new opportunities; try something new, completely different, out of your comfort zone. Embrace the struggle. Explore what you would need to do in order to reinvent yourself.

Challenge yourself. You deserve it! Think Big and act boldly. You can and you will! Others have done it, so can you!

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If you have negative thoughts about yourself (I’m not very attractive, I am not able to overcome this situation, I always screw things up, I’m so clumsy, etc.), ponder these things:

Carpe diem. Seize the day!

Time is scarce and precious. Enjoy life, it’s later than you think.

Time is never lost, the life of he who wastes time is lost, Gonzalez-Pecotche.

All human beings have time but no one can buy it.

Do not waste your time, just enjoy it. Live every moment of your life as if it were your last. We hope you will make the most out of your time, manage it as efficiently as possible, but how?

The secret of life is to be able to adapt and cope with anything

Do not consider the past. A man is never too old to start his life again and we should not consider that what he was will determine what he is or will be, Miguel de Unamuno.

No use crying over spilt milk, English proverb.

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There are two key ideas that should be taken into account.

The first is that the past does not exist any more, it is never too late to start again, to rebuild our lives. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. The future depends on what you do today! Make the most of today, a masterpiece.

Don’t allow the troubles, the pain, or your mistakes from yesterday, prevent or steal the gift of living today to the fullest.

Now is the time for us to shine, the time when our dreams are in reach and possibilities, vast. Now is the time for all of us to become the people we always dreamed of being. This is your world. You’re here. You matter. The world is waiting, Haley James Scott.

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However, it is also very true that as we get older we should not try to do everything like we did when we were young. Living as you used to may no longer be possible (changes in health, life circumstances, and income).

Accept and enjoy every stage of life with its advantages and disadvantages, be happy with what you have and are right now, and live according to your circumstances. “You should not try to go back to the place where you found happiness,” sang Joaquín Sabina, a Spanish songwriter.

Before I was paralyzed there were 10,000 things I could do. Now there are 9,000. I can either dwell on the 1,000 I’ve lost or focus on the 9,000 I have left. It is not what happens to you, it’s what you do with it, W. Mitchell.

You will be happy if you learn to live each moment of your life joyfully with its possibilities and limitations, embracing it, accepting its challenges and restrictions, enjoying the moment to the fullest and the good things that life has to offer, and developing discipline, courage and the strength to permanently move beyond your limits.