How to cope with being sick

You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice, Bob Marley

Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live, Jim Rohn

Are you wounded, injured or sick? Does your head, throat, or stomach hurt? Are you sick and tired of being sick? Let me suggest some useful tips for you in this area.
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How to get through difficult times

Storms make trees take deeper roots, Dolly Parton.

Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever, Karen Blixen.

Do not get dismayed or discouraged in hard times, and whatever you do ― never ever play the victim’s role.

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How do you cope with a surgery?

First, prevention is far better than cure. Staying safe means you can have more fun and more time to enjoy your life. For instance, always cross at the pedestrian crossing, do not to take “shortcuts”; do not eat anything given by a stranger, do not climb the fence. Other tips related to playground safety: “Take a grown-up. Take a good look around. Keep your size in mind. Don’t go too high. Look out below. Swing safely” (Children’ Hospital of Pittsburgh, Patients and Families, Kid’s Health, Watch out).

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However, if you need an operation or surgery:

How do you cope with failing an exam?

Don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It’s OK to fail. If you’re not failing, you’re not growing, H. Stanley Judd.

We will all fail in life, but nobody has to be a failure. Failing at a thing doesn’t make you a failure. You are only a failure when you quit trying, Joyce Meyer.

Read our free ebooks Sorry, I fail and I can and I will for a gentle introduction to this topic.

Dealing with death

To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure, J.K. Rowling.

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Problem Solving

It is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail, Abraham Harold Maslow.

We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them, Albert Einstein.

If you get stuck, get away from your desk. Take a walk, take a bath, go to sleep, make a pie, draw, listen to ­music, meditate, exercise; whatever you do, don’t just stick there scowling at the problem. But don’t make telephone calls or go to a party; if you do, other people’s words will pour in where your lost words should be. Open a gap for them, create a space. Be patient, Hilary Mantel.

Problem solving is one of the most essential skills in life. How you handle those challenges determines how successful you can be, what kind of person you are.

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Let me offer you a model for problem solving:

Mentors

I am not a teacher, but an awakener, Robert Frost.

What is a teacher? I’ll tell you: it isn’t someone who teaches something, but someone who inspires the student to give of her best in order to discover what she already knows, Paulo Coelho.

Asking for “help” is a way to cope with difficulties. One of the most efficient ways to get help is to team up with a mentor that guides us every step of the way.

A mentor is someone who can take you under his or her wings, and nurture your career. It is someone that you can feel comfortable with, someone you can trust. If you want to find him or her, you may follow these guidelines:

Ask for help

Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours, Les Brown.

When a person really desires something, all the universe conspires to help that person to realise his dream, Paulo Coelho

Do you face difficulties, obstacles, and failures? Learn to ask for help, and when others assist you, be grateful. You will be amazed how much you can get done when you ask for help.

The key ideas are as follows.

Facing life challenges and difficulties

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Difficulties in your life do not come to destroy you, but to help you realise your hidden potential and power. Let difficulties know that you too are difficult, Dr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity, Albert Einstein.

Typically, there will be many moments where you will taste the bitterness of setbacks and difficulties before getting the sweetness of success. At those times, you should consider the following:

You should never, ever focus obsessively on the problem: Why does it all happen to me? Who is to blame? Life Sucks! What has changed? What negative consequences will I face for this? …

Forget about your past experiences, about what it could have been, but never was. Do not cling to how things have always been done, but how I am going to do them now. Do not try the same thing over and over again without changing your perspective, attitudes, and behaviours.

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them”, A. Einstein.

Do not fool yourself and carry on as if nothing had happened, the problems will not magically magic disappear. Do not blame yourself when things go sour forever, just blame yourself once, and move on. Do not complain again and again about your problems (it solves nothing and everyone else has their own problems to deal with) and how sick you feel.

This dynamic creates a self-destructive cycle arrowCycle of anger, resentment, sadness, and depression. You will become resentful, bitter, and unhappy, which in turn will make everyone around you feel the same. Your self-esteem and resilience will decline and very likely conflicts in your relationships will arise. It is, indeed, a formula for misery which leads you nowhere.

On the contrary, spend most of your time focusing on the solution. That is: what do I have to do to overcome it? And, as far as possible, what do I have to do to get over it and enjoy the process? Getting things done does not necessarily mean pain and suffering. Ask yourself if you can clear the problem up whilst having a good time.

For example, if you fail academically, you will probably need to avoid distractions, study more and harder. Do not panic! Remember that you can always find ideas that will make your experience more enjoyable and less boring. For example, find a more comfortable chair, swivel-chair listen to classical music music while studying, meet up with a group of friends to study and organise spaces and times to go out for coffee or a drink, relax and have a chat, etc.

In summary, what should we do to face difficulties, obstacles and failures in life?