Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing, August Wilson.
If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality, Dr Roopleen.
- The perfect is the enemy of the good. I have said that you should take the courage to pursue your dreams, work hard for them, try to do things the best you can, but what I really mean is that you should do things as they need to be done. There are important tasks and others that are not, so do not spend much time and effort with those tasks which are not worthwhile.
- Being different is not a bad thing, it is something precious one should appreciate! You are worth it! Be yourself, enjoy who you are as a unique and special person! There are many people who suffer from discrimination on the basis of their gender, sexual orientation, religion, color, ethnicity, disability, physical traits, age, etc. If you suffer discrimination, you may want to read Overcoming prejudice and discrimination.
- You cannot make an omelette without breaking eggs. The pursuit of anything worthwhile will definitely require sacrifices, overcoming obstacles, adversity, setbacks, disappointment..., taking risks, making mistakes, falling down and being able to stand up again.
- I want to be clear and plain: there are no failures, only outcomes. Unwanted results are opportunities to learn and grow, they are the feedback that we need to keep growing.
- If you do not get the desired results: (1) Do not blame others, yourself or feel guilty, but focus on solutions. (2) Adapt, be flexible, shift perspective, plans, and mindsets, and embrace change with a positive attitude. Open the doors to collaboration, communication, and creativity.
- We need to accept and take responsibility for our lives, our actions, and mistakes. Do not misunderstand me, we are not omnipotent, we are not responsible for everything that happens to us, but we are responsible for how we react to it. I am talking about accepting who we are and gaining control of ourselves and our lives.
- Mens sana in corpore sano. Do exercise, play sports, and live an active lifestyle, but avoid competition. Sports competition can lead to frustration, low self-esteem, and anxiety.
- It is important to recognize that our identity is constructed in relation to the social groups to which we belong (sex, nationality, ethnic origin, age, social class, etc.) and in comparison with the social groups that we do not belong to. Therefore, it makes a lot of sense that we encourage our own-group members to build self-esteem, value them, listen to them (showing that what they say is important for us), and congratulate them on their successes. As we create a healthy, happy, and productive atmosphere in our family, job, etc. we are also helping ourselves.
In other words, once we have established what we really want, we have planned and defined the milestones and tasks, we need to make sure that we are able to stay focused and commit ourselves to the tasks ahead, in a continuous and relentless effort, with the conviction that we are capable. Do not trust those who talk about love without "thorns" (There are no roses without thorns and no love without sorrows), or success without significant sacrifice and setbacks.
An inspiring example is Abraham Lincoln. He lost eight elections (1832, 1834, 1838, 1840, 1843, 1848, 1854, 1858), his fiancée died from typhoid in 1835, he also failed twice in business, declared bankruptcy, suffered a nervous breakdown, but he also became the president of the United States in 1860. Another good example is Edison. He tried over 6,000 times before perfecting the first electric light bulb.
I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed, Michael Jordan.
The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don't want it badly enough, Randy Pausch.
I am a social activist. I have two Bachelor's degrees, Maths and Computer & Software Engineering. I also have a Ph.D. in Psychology. I have written nine published books, four scientific articles, and five scientific presentations. I simply want to contribute to making a difference where it counts, so that we make the world a better, more sustainable, prosperous, and fairer place. I am always willing to give free talks and lectures about the social problems that exist in our world today. View all posts by Anawim