When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us, Alexander Graham Bell.
Do not cry if the Sun sets at the end of the day, because the tears will not let you enjoy the beauty of the Stars, Anonymous.
It is up to you to decide if the glass is half full or half empty. More important than our experiences and circumstances is the subjective evaluation we make of them. The relationship between our assessment and reality is not direct, but rather complex.
You can always make a positive reading of your personal history, even at the most difficult times. Personally, when I went through lung metastasis, I learned that life is very short and that I have to make the most of it. I rediscovered the love of God, my mother, my wife, and some good friends. I realised that many things that used to overwhelm me were not as important as I thought they were.
Imagine that you messed up badly, have experienced something negative or traumatic, or have felt the bitter taste of failure. It may be that you have failed an important exam, your boss has already lost faith in your work quality and productivity, and is questioning very seriously your suitability for the job, or you’ve just said something stupid to your girlfriend’s mum.
You may be tempted to blame yourself over and over and give up. Please, don’t victimise yourself, and do not say things like: “I do not have any hope; I am out of luck; There is nothing I can do; I will never achieve that bachelor’s degree; I will be left on the shelf forever; Whatever I do, everything remains the same; etc.
You always have a choice. You can improve your chances by taking responsibility, making good choices, changing your approach to improve your results, and working hard!
You need to reinterpret the failures and bad experiences as outcomes, as opportunities to learn, grow, and expand beyond your limits. It is all about rethinking them with a positive attitude. Be optimistic because you can and you will!
Let me suggest you a reinterpretation of what has happened to you, where the permanent, personal, and global becomes transitory, impersonal, and local. I will try to be a little clearer about what I really mean.
Why is it valuable? The reasons are many: You will be happier, have better self-esteem, and be more resilient; this style helps you achieve your goals, improve your academic results and professional performance; It gives you the desire and energy to overcome obstacles, to consider these as temporary outcomes. It will help you make better decisions and choices, and build a network of emotional support more effectively.
However, the negative explanatory style is associated with low self-esteem, irritability, depression, anxiety, stress, higher mortality rate, decreased immune system -you are more likely to get ill-, etc.Compártelo / Share it!